Anger management is about deploying anger or managing the nervous energy and save yourself from the negative consequences.  Irritation emotional disturbance and many other early messengers send the signals that a person is suffering anger.  Anger can be a motivation for those who understand it. If a person can channelize anger in equation it can be very useful especially in the modern life circumstances. When a person gets early signs of anger they should take proper action.  Anger can be situational but its consequences are long term. We shouldn’t overreact on situational straying nervous energy.  Anger is a defensive response mechanism of life. Anger can be a result of frustration or maybe it generates from feeling blocked. Anger management is a psychotherapeutic programme aimed at channelizing the energy.

Does anger drive you or you drive your anger? Because if anger drives you , the ride is actually taking you to the living hell but if you drive your anger, you actually possess a guided missile that makes for a strategic deterrent.

Are you always complaining?

‘’People  won’t have time for  you’’, Stephen Hawkings said, ’’if you are always angry or complaining’’. Weak people complain while the smart people seek for the alternates. So if you are always complaining, the possibility is that the problem lies in your actions or attitude. Search within.

Who gets angry?

Everyone of us. Clint Eastwood emphatically stated’ ’we boil at different degrees’’.Our reasons may differ, our tone and style may vary but we all get angry on times.

What  triggers your anger?

Displeasure and sadness, stress or revenge, failures and jealous ,There are many catalyst that triggers the panic button. Anger is a natural reaction to the unfairness of loss .but ‘’whatever is begun in anger ends in shame’’as Benjamin Franklin observed. And’’a man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green’’ as Francis Bacon pointed.

How anger starts?

Feeling sick and uneasy, or dominant and vindictive may trigger the anger bullets.   whatever ’’Anger begins with folly and ends with repentence ’’as Pythagoras found. Misunderstandings are the cornerstones of weaker minds.as Gary Oldman states,’’My passion and energy gets mistaken for the anger’’. Let’s work out our differences. They are still smarter who don’t surrender their right to agree on the disagreement.

What is the profit of anger?

Nothing  as such.’’Anger is as a stone cast into a wasps nest’’ pope Paul vi says,hurt emotions are blind .They don’t realize who they sting. Austin O’malley  puts it clearly’’Revenge is often like biting a dog because the dog has bitten you’’ .Anger has limited positives only when the person drives that energy. Buddha suggested ’’Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one that gets burned’’.

How to drive anger?

‘’The greatest remedy to anger is delay’’Aslusius Seneca suggests. The counselors guide the  ways to channel your anger in a constructive mode than in destructive creation. ’’It  is wise to direct your anger towards problem-not to people’’Willium Arthur ward explains’’ Focus your energies on answers and not on the excuses’’

What makes you suffer?

Basically it is our attitude that gets us what we have. The self centered attitude brings you suffering and the misery.’’There is a natural law of karma’’,Sylvester stellon says’’karma that vindictive people, who go out of their way to hurt others ,will end up broke and alone.’’ Nothing comes alone ,every product  comes with the package. Anger also comes with its family .Hatred, guilt, resentment, frustration, annoyance are anger’s family members.Marcus Tullius Cicero points’’Hatred is a settled anger’’.

So  raise your  voice and clench your fists. Harness your anger or avoid it .You are the boss. Channel your energy and focus your targets. Anger will leave for good when you agree to disagree and focus on the importance of relationship and the benefits to the life. You can choose not to get upset by the petty pebbles that life ,time and people throw at you. Harness your energy, stop being a victim to the anger.