Marriage is one of the deepest of relationship that a person develops in life. But as we know all people are not good at developing things. Life tests us by pressures and traumas. We develop through struggle. 100 counselors offer guidance and support in case of misunderstanding created or otherwise. The happy marriage is part and parcel of a fulfilled life.

‘’Chains do not hold a marriage together’ Simone Signoret observed,’’It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years’’.

What goes wrong with marriages ?

It is like the climate and the landscape. Many permutation and combinations are there. Relations get strained at times.One wrong perception or word.One misunderstood attachment. Ego vibes and the negative interaction cycle begins. Sometimes the poor health of a partner or anger issues dominate the relation. Arrogance, jealousy or the poor communication sometimes and the third party involvement [infidelity] create thorns on the bed of roses. Ultimately someone or something becomes the reason for the marriages to go wrong.

Is there any quick fix for strained relations ?

Of course, it is. What goes wrong can be guided and new systems can be programmed with proactive prudence. A word of encouragement, friendly talks, objective and honest relationship can be fostered. Threads of love, understanding, ideas and care give nourishment to the relationship.Threads of emotions sew together. Strong partnerships are made through personal investment. Openness is the key for strength in any relation.

What are the symptoms ?

Strained relations are not on talking terms or there is negative talking or bad mouthing. if a partner is afraid to talk it’s a sign. When the river of affection and love stops flowing and a win/lose game begin, the relationship suffers. When a partner becomes adversary and try to harm and hurt the other, the relationship has to face the music. When there is infidelity or extramarital affair , the relationship suffers.

What effects relationship ?

Ultimately the personality effects the relationship. The level of education, training, experiences and struggles through life effect the persona. The values, the religious belief, upbringing and many factors are there which effect any relationship especially the marriage.

How to deal strained relations ?

Evaluate your paradigms and decide what do you want from the relation as a whole.’’ It’s not the lack of love’’ FRIEDRICH NIETZSCHE AFFIRMS, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. Give friendly smile to yourself and ask that person in the mirror’’ Are you borne to do this’’?