Life is an unshaped stuff and the artisan provides a shape to the matter.parenting is the art of shaping lives and future society. The old wisdom says that the matter can’t be destroyed or produced. One can only changes the shape of life.
1) What is the golden rule of parenting?
Some schools suggest love is the way while the others propose punishment methods. Actually parenting is not mechanical rather it is a personalized equation that needs emotional customization. Louis heart says-“the golden rule for parenting is, do unto your children as you wish your parents had done unto you.”
2) The parents job profile- they are the unpaid servants of humanity. A mother has to sacrifice sleep of many nights when a child is growing and the father has to work hard to prepare for the future account. It’s not easy to raise children in a proper manner. Jennifer Aniston says “parenting is one of hardest job on earth.”
3) Modern life-drug addiction among children
Modern life is hectic and too demanding. The failures of everyday put high scale of pressure on human emotions and the majority of people get caught with some tranquilizer of sensations. Drugs and alcohol are the cheap means of peaceful life but they have the negative side effects.so, how to keep children off the drugs. Mel Carnahan says “parents are the key when it comes to keeping kids off drugs. Good parenting is the best antidrug we have.
4) What do children want from parents?
People have the delusional frame of understanding when it comes to understanding the demands of life. In majority the parents feel that the children demand toys or money or some luxury. But it is not so. The deep wisdom proves through the actions and as Tina Turner says “give them your quality time. I regret not having had more time with my kids when they were growing up.” Don’t let the time regret on you.
5) What parents really do?
Parents are the source of life for a child and the source should always remain connected because the lost connections disrupt the processing of soul. Parents do so many things for their children but we remember the negatives in general and keep harping on the same string. Qumtin Crisp remembers “my mother protected me from the world and my father threatened me with it.” That’s what parent really do.
6) How to judge parents?
There is no criterion of judgement. The program of life does not suggest any fool proof material of observation. Parents may act according their training or from their instinct. Some parents go on the course designed by few professionals but it is not something that we can clear cut define. Great George Bernard Shaw says “parentage is a very important profession, but no test of fitness for it is ever imposed in the interest of children.”
7) The irrational parents
Some parents are badly trained human being. They feel that the children are just material stuff that they can use and then they throw the emotional garbage of their life on their children. Virginia Satir says “what lingers from the parent’s individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.”
8) Parenting of girl child
The girl children are a neglected bag of potential humanity. The history exposes the human race as whimsical. The men have dominated the woman in majority of the time span and the girl child have suffered tyranny of social madness. Miriam Makeba says “girls are the future mothers of our society and it is important that we focus on their wellbeing.”
In the end the thought of wisdom. As someone said “to be in your children’s’ memories tomorrow you have to be in their lives today.
Gappu Chaturvedi
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